It’s such an interesting question isn’t it. Personally I have no desire to fork out regularly for that kind of thing. I don’t even own makeup so I’m pretty lazy with it all, but going food shopping where I used to live and seeing a Botox treatment place straight across from Cole’s definitely made me feel the pressure. When woman around you are freezing it’s hard to be the one aging. As much as I also agree each to their own, I have sons and I want them to grow up with realistic expectations of what a woman looks like. I look in the mirror and see my eyes that seem to sink back more and more every month and my frown lines, then one kid steals the others toy and I get distracted pretty quick. I am constantly feeling like I need to make more effort in my appearance, but maybe just to brush my hair everyday would be a better start.
I resonate so much with this! I wonder if it wasn’t so cost prohibitive if we would all care less?! But I very much agree that it’s so important for the next generation to see our real faces.. because at what point do we draw the line?
I must admit though that ageing alongside my peers who seem to be ageing in reverse can be a bit of a mindf*** 🫠
Haha yep, such a mind F! And maybe if it was the same price as an eyebrow wax we wouldn’t raise an eyebrow (pun intended)
and like you said also, expression! Having your kids see expression on your face, aren’t facial cues a huge part of communication?
The lines around beauty feel so blurred now. On the one hand, let’s not judge and it’s your body so go to town but on the other hand when is it actually having a negative impact.
I wonder what lies underneath the external pressure to conform to the pressure from society? I stopped reading magazines and newspapers years ago. Can't remember the last time I watched an advert. I think this is partly because my mum was always obsessed with how she looked but I could see it was coming from external pressures but also a lack of confidence in herself. She advised me, as a teenager, to only use makeup as a treat when I went out and that's how I have always thought of it. Another part is I would be terrified of allowing someone to put something alien in my body unless it was to save my life. I heard that botox is actually botulism. Don't know if that's true? I am 56 now and I can see I am aging but it's not a priority. I'm more concerned with how I feel and my health. I have felt though a sense of grief for losing my youth and been feeling very nostalgic about the wonderful years I have had with my husband. He's a lot older than me. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what we do to our outsides, our insides are still aging and there is no way around that. I just feel blessed to be alive. Some of my most beloved relatives didn't make it beyond 20, 40, 60. If I make it to my 80s I don't think I will be worrying about whether I had botox or plastic surgery. Probably be more concerned about whether I can get to the toilet on time. 😂 I hope you find a peaceful solution to this dilemma and that you can continue to be the brilliant role model you already are for your daughter. 💜
Thank you for such a thoughtful comment! I couldn’t agree more with the sentiment that once we are in our 60s, 70s and beyond, are we actually going to care about all this stuff? Probably not! Or rather, hopefully not. Its funny too because I don’t even wear makeup which makes this internal conflict even more interesting to me if I zoom out... but at the end of the day, no matter our choices, I just hope to be that positive energy and role model for my children ✨
It’s such an interesting question isn’t it. Personally I have no desire to fork out regularly for that kind of thing. I don’t even own makeup so I’m pretty lazy with it all, but going food shopping where I used to live and seeing a Botox treatment place straight across from Cole’s definitely made me feel the pressure. When woman around you are freezing it’s hard to be the one aging. As much as I also agree each to their own, I have sons and I want them to grow up with realistic expectations of what a woman looks like. I look in the mirror and see my eyes that seem to sink back more and more every month and my frown lines, then one kid steals the others toy and I get distracted pretty quick. I am constantly feeling like I need to make more effort in my appearance, but maybe just to brush my hair everyday would be a better start.
I resonate so much with this! I wonder if it wasn’t so cost prohibitive if we would all care less?! But I very much agree that it’s so important for the next generation to see our real faces.. because at what point do we draw the line?
I must admit though that ageing alongside my peers who seem to be ageing in reverse can be a bit of a mindf*** 🫠
Haha yep, such a mind F! And maybe if it was the same price as an eyebrow wax we wouldn’t raise an eyebrow (pun intended)
and like you said also, expression! Having your kids see expression on your face, aren’t facial cues a huge part of communication?
The lines around beauty feel so blurred now. On the one hand, let’s not judge and it’s your body so go to town but on the other hand when is it actually having a negative impact.
Yes yes yes 🙌
I wonder what lies underneath the external pressure to conform to the pressure from society? I stopped reading magazines and newspapers years ago. Can't remember the last time I watched an advert. I think this is partly because my mum was always obsessed with how she looked but I could see it was coming from external pressures but also a lack of confidence in herself. She advised me, as a teenager, to only use makeup as a treat when I went out and that's how I have always thought of it. Another part is I would be terrified of allowing someone to put something alien in my body unless it was to save my life. I heard that botox is actually botulism. Don't know if that's true? I am 56 now and I can see I am aging but it's not a priority. I'm more concerned with how I feel and my health. I have felt though a sense of grief for losing my youth and been feeling very nostalgic about the wonderful years I have had with my husband. He's a lot older than me. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what we do to our outsides, our insides are still aging and there is no way around that. I just feel blessed to be alive. Some of my most beloved relatives didn't make it beyond 20, 40, 60. If I make it to my 80s I don't think I will be worrying about whether I had botox or plastic surgery. Probably be more concerned about whether I can get to the toilet on time. 😂 I hope you find a peaceful solution to this dilemma and that you can continue to be the brilliant role model you already are for your daughter. 💜
Thank you for such a thoughtful comment! I couldn’t agree more with the sentiment that once we are in our 60s, 70s and beyond, are we actually going to care about all this stuff? Probably not! Or rather, hopefully not. Its funny too because I don’t even wear makeup which makes this internal conflict even more interesting to me if I zoom out... but at the end of the day, no matter our choices, I just hope to be that positive energy and role model for my children ✨
Nodding to all of this !
Thank you 🙏